Be Courteous, Be Blessed

Adab for Rasool (PBUH)

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More than 1400 years ago there was a man named Abdullah. He was very handsome. All girls were after him. But he was a very pious man and ignored all these girls. In that dour (time) of jahaliyat, it was very rare for a man ke woh larkiyon se bachay. Later on, he got married to a woman name Amnah. After he got married all the girls who were after him gave up ke ab tou is kee shaadi ho gaye hai. All but one. One woman was still after him. Abdullah was a trader and he had to pass by her area. Because of that woman he stopped going in that area. But one day, he had no other option and had to go from there. When he went there the woman saw him and came running towards him. She shrieked, and started crying and ran back and closed the door. Abdullah was very surprised that she was after him for so long and now she is shrieking and crying. What’s wrong?

Abdullah went to her door and asked what the problem is. Now this woman was very knowledgeable. She told him that we know that a last prophet will come, and we have seen sign that his coming is near. On your forehead, I saw the ‘noor of nabuat’ and I wanted to marry you so that the last prophet will come from my line. But today when I saw you, I saw that the ‘noor of nabuat’ has left your forehead. I don’t want anything to do with you now. I don’t want to marry you anymore.

That was the day when the noor of nabuat left Hazrat Abdullah’s forehead and moved to Hazrat Amnah’s womb.

Best of Creation

Allah made Hazrat Mohammad Mustafa (PBUH) the best of creation.

Allah says in Quran whoever obeys him (PBUH), obeys me;

Whoso obeyeth the messenger hath obeyed Allah. (Surah An-Nisa:80)

Allay says in Quran, Surah Al-e-Imran;

Say, (O Muhammad, to mankind): If ye love Allah, follow me; Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. (31)

Don’t we all want this? To be loved by Allah and that all our sins be forgiven? But we are not trying hard enough. We all want to enter jannat and we all want our sins to be washed away.

Allah notices all this and knows that we want to enter jannat, that we want all our sins to be forgiven. And, therefore, He is giving us a solution. If you want to become My beloved, love My beloved (PBUH).

Allah has made it our nature to love Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH). You don’t have to tell people about his (PBUH) traits. People just start loving him (PBUH) when they hear about him (PBUH).

We would all love to go to jannat, but we are not trying to implement the solution Allah has provided us.

Once a man was sitting in a bazar and crying a lot. People asked him why are you crying. He said

Allah in logon ko itna mananay kee koshish kar rahay hain, yeh log maantay hee nahi.

Logon ne unhein console kiya ke yeh duniya aisi hee hai, aap na royein.

Thoray dinon baad woh aadmi qabrastan mein bethay ro rahay thay. Logon ne pocha kya hua, aap kyun ro rahay hain? Unhon ne jawab diya;

Ab yeh log Allah ko mananay kee koshish kar rahay hain aur Allah maan hee nahi rahay.

Hadees tells that;

We are supposed to love Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH) more than our ancestors and children.

Practical demonstration of this love is Sahaba Karam (RA)

Hazrat Abu Bakar Siddiq (RA)

Hazrat Abu Bakar Siddiq (RA) changed his appearance to be like Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH) so much so that they both looked so alike that people often confused them. Like we say that when there is love between two people they even start resembling each other.

Another Sahabi (RA)

Another Sahabi (RA) said to Nabi Kareem (PBUH);

I love you (PBUH) more than my maal (wealth). When I am at home I keep thinking about you (PBUH) so I come to you (PBUH) and I gaze at your (PBUH) face. But then I get sad because K know that death will one day approach both of us. And even if I go to jannat, you (PBUH) will be with anbiya, salaheen and shuhada.

Basically he said that I won’t be able to look at you (PBUH) in jannat. This world is better because I can look at you (PBUH).

At this Allah said that in jannat people will be with those whom they love.

This made the sahaba karam (RA) really happy.

Mohabbat k Taqazay

If we say that we love Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH) then there are some taqazay of mohabbat. Mohabbat ke kuch taqazay hotay hain.

For example, if a husband says to his wife on the first day that I really love you. I will bring the stars and moon for you. And from the next day, he finds fault in everything she does. And does not take care of her. Us kee har baat pe aitraz karay. Aur chand taray tou kya sabzi bhi na la ke dey. Will we say that they are true lovers?

Similarly, it is not enough to just say that we love Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH). Humein aisa ishq karna hai jo nazar aye aur ishq ke taqazay puray karnay hain.

Hamari taraf se deen mein feelings kee buhat kami hai.

Namaz mein agar feelings hoti hain tou namaz ka maza aata hai. Tilawat mein agar feelings hoti hain tou tilawat ka maza ata hai.

1.  Respect

Jab Nabi Kareem (PBUH) ka zikar ho tou dil se ihtram karein. Dil mein ihtram kee feeling aani chaye.

Jab Sahaba Karam (RA), Nabi Kareem (PBUH) ke saath bethay hotay thay aur Nabi Kareem (PBUH) koi hadees bata rahay hotay thay woh itnay ihtram se bethay hotay thay k zara bhi nahi hiltay thay aur paranday un ke sar pe aa kay beth jatay thay.

Jab hum hadees parhein tou hum bhi waisay hee ihtram se bethein.

Imam Malik (Rehmat Ullah)

Imam Malik (Rehmat Ullah) k paas jab bhi koi ata tha tou who phele apni baandi ko bhejtay thay keh poch ke ao ke kis liye aye hain. Agar log kehtay thay k kisi fiq k maslay ke liye aye hain tou inhein foran andar bula letay thay. Agar koi kehta tha ke hadees sunay aye hain tou Imam Malik (Rehmat Ullah) phele gusal kartay thay. Phir achay kapray pehan kar itar lagatay thay. Aik takht hadees sunanay ke liye maqsoor kiya hua tha, us pe beth k buhat sara durood parhtay thay aur phir hadees batatay thay.

Kisi ne pocha keh aap itna kartay hain is se aap ko kya faida hua tou unhon ne bataya ke aik raat chor kar roz Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH) khwab mein atay hain.

Durood Shareef is a sign that you love Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH).

2.  When you love someone you do whatever they say

Hazrat Abdullah ibn Rawaha (RA)

Hazrat Abdullah (RA) aik dafa masjid mein dakhil ho rahay thay tou aik qadam masjid k andar tha aur aik qadam bahar keh unhein Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH) kee awaz aye, ‘Beth jao, beth jao’, tou Hazrat Abdullah (RA) waheen beth gaye. Bahar dhoop thi magar phir bhi who aisay hee beth gaye. In se kisi ne pocha keh aap aisay kyun beth gaye, aik qadam andar rakhnay mein kitni dair lag jati. Magar unhon ne jawab diya keh Nabi Kareem (PBUH) ka hukum tha tou mein is kay khilaf aik qadam bhi kaisay utha sakta tha.

Aur jab hum koi hadees ya sunnat suntay hain tou kehtay hain ke ‘hum kal se amal karein gain’.

We should follow sunnah. If you love Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH), then you should follow sunnat).

We are all kinds of crazy, but we are not sunnah-crazy.

Start your day like Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH). Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH) used to recite a dua and rubbed his (PBUH) eyes when he (PBUH) woke up. At night, aap (PBUH) apna bistar jhartay thay and he (PBUH) used to recite a dua.

How nice it would be if we would start and end our day like our beloved Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH).

3.  When you love someone, you discuss that person a lot

Like mothers discuss their favorite child all the time. They keep telling everyone, mera bacha tou yeh karta hai, mere bachay ko tou yeh ata hai, woh ata hai.

We should also discuss Nabi Kareem (PBUH) in our gatherings.

Hazrat Abu Bakar Siddiq (RA)

After the death of Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH), once when Hazrat Abu Bakar Siddiq (RA) wanted to tell something about him (PBUH), he (RA) said his (PBUH) name and started crying.

Then he again said his (PBUH) name and started crying.

Then again he said his (PBUH) name and started crying.

He (RA) couldn’t go beyond the name of Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH), he missed him (PBUH) that much.

Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar (RA)

Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar (RA) ka aik dafa paon so gaya tha tou unhein kaha gaya ke jis se sab se zada mohabbat hai us ka naam lou tou theek ho jaye ga. Tou Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar (RA) ne kaha Rasool Allah (PBUH).

It is said that whenever your leg goes numb, recite durood shareef.

Hazrat Bilal (RA)

After the death of Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH), Hazrat Bilal (RA) got so upset that he left Madinah.

One night, he saw Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH) or heard Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH)’s voice saying;

Bilal itna arsa hua hum (PBUH) se milnay ko nahi aye?

Hazrat Bilal (RA) woke up and immediately started travelling towards Madinah. He (RA) did not wait for the morning, he immediately left for Madinah.

When he reached Madinah, he went to Masjid-e-Nabwi (PBUH). Wahan Hazrat Imam Hussain (RA) aur Hazrat Imam Hassan (RA) thay aur unhon ne kaha ke humein Nabi Kareem (PBUH) kay waqt hee azan sunni hai. (Nabi Kareem (PBUH) ke waqt Hazrat Bilal (RA) azan diya kartay thay.)

Hazrat Bilal (RA) ne azan dena shoroh kee tou log apnay gharon se nikal aye. Auratein bhi chaadrein orh kar gharon se nikal ayein. Us waqt aik bachay ne apni maa se pocha Nabi Kareem (PBUH) kay waqt kee azan tou ho rahi hai, Nabi Kareem (PBUH) kab wapis ayein gain?

4.  Nabi Kareem (PBUH) ka jo ummat ke liye ghum tha woh ghum hum mein bhi hona chaye

Nabi Kareem (PBUH) used to cry for his (PBUH) ummat. We should also feel the same for Muslims.