Help Spread Education ~Change begins at Home

Originally posted on: 26 May, 2013

The only way to bring about a bigger change is to educate people. Tell them the difference between right and wrong. Show them the thin line which separates good from bad and then let them make their own decisions.

Don’t leave the responsibility of educating your children to schools alone. Get yourself involved. And play your part.
Take them on a bus ride. So they experience the difficulties faced by people all over the country, everyday.
Give them pocket money, but don’t be overly generous. So they know what “living on a tight budget” feels like.
Teach them to read. Not just the course books. But novels/story books, encyclopedias, newspapers, magazines, comics, anything, everything. So they explore the worlds that go beyond ours. So that they learn to think out-of-the-box.
Make them understand the value of time. And the need of hard work.
Don’t let them get too close to TV, and especially news channels. So that they DON’T learn that human life is disposable.
Tell them your story so that they know where they come from.
Teach them to play. Pay with them. Teach them how to be a good sportsman.
Teach them how to swim, run, ride horses, sew, cook, clean. Give them an eclectic set of skills.
Treat your sons and daughters equally. Instill a spirit of confidence in your daughters, give them the courage to go out in this male-dominated society and excel.
Teach them about Islam. Teach them about other religions. So that they come to appreciate the value of religion; so that they respect not only their own religion but others as well. And more importantly, so that they become good Muslims.
Teach your children to be strong.
Don’t stop your children from cheating. Rather explain to them why it is wrong.
Don’t prohibit your children from doing certain things. Simply, sit with them and tell them what is wrong and what is right; so that they stop themselves from “wrong” and get attracted towards “right”. Make them realize the sufferings incurred by unjust decisions, so that they refrain from them. Do not try to make them good. Try to make them the best.
Teach them to love the country they live in and hold it in the highest of esteems, so they don’t grow up to become the defeated warriors that we are. So that they live with the will to take their country to the very top.
Teach them to share.
Teach them to see the good in people, yet not get tricked by deceiving facades.
Teach them to put all their faith on Allah and Allah alone.
With this you just become a commendable parent; or aunt; or uncle. But what about the so many children who do not think about school. Who don’t consider education a necessity or to be more correct who don’t have the luxury to consider education a necessity and hence are fooled by empty promises of roti, kapra, makan.
Not everyone can afford to make schools and manage them. But there are so many non-profit organizations that are shouldering the responsibility of educating the future of this nation and doing praise worthy job. But they do need assistance and support. You can do that by donating your time, or money, or both.
To name a few organizations:
       1) The Citizen’s Foundation (with the slogan soch se taqdeer tak)
       2) Namal College (Imran Khan’s brainchild)
Research on them. Decide if they are doing a good enough job. And if they are, allocate a small amount of your monthly income for them. Donate every month, switch amongst them each month if you find more than one deserving organization.
See if they take volunteers.
There can be more than one ways of helping out. Think of what you can do, and then do it.
Chip-in your penny’s worth.
Speaking of the slogan soch se taqdeer tak; do understand that mere education is no guarantee of an open mind. Minds need to be opened. With us all grown up; we tend to think that we ourselves are open minded and everyone else has “choti soch”. However, we cannot be more wrong. We need to realize that each of us has some space for improvement. And we should always be willing to improve.
Do not just educate children. Educate yourself and your friends and your colleagues.
Make people around you realize the importance of reading. Get them interested in it, because education cannot just be received from academic institutions. It is not limited to institutes only. There is only so much you can learn there, the rest you need to do yourself. The education you receive from institutes needs to be polished and kept up to date.
Whoever said that you can only excel in one field of study. Work in more than one field and excel. Challenge your limits, go beyond what you think is possible.
Reading up on other fields will only help in brining innovative ideas to your own field. It will open your mind and will motivate you to bring about a more than welcome change.
Read up on nations who brought about a change in their country peacefully. Adapt their traits.
Read up on Islam. It is the only religion which can provide us salvation. Adapt the teachings of Islam. It teaches tolerance.
Sit with your friends and discuss the ways you can bring about a change.
As an idea, consider this; look around and find a student who needs financial assistance. Then ask your friends to contribute. See how much all of you together can come up with each month. And then extend your help.
Ask the university you completed your bachelors from if they have a student you can help with in paying fees.
Although scholarships based on merit are supposed to be for any student who excels whether or not he needs it or not. But if you are a student, or a parent of a student who can afford tuition fees easily, then donate your scholarship money to some other student who needs it.
Buy books and donate them to libraries so that everyone can benefit from that book.

Go in groups to government schools and ask them if they need your assistance. If you have any kind of skill, you can ask the school to arrange a class or a short course where you can impart your skill to students free of cost.

Again, sit with your friends and think what you can do about the sorry-full state of education in our country.
We have done enough talking. Bickering doesn’t get you anywhere.
It’s time we get up and do something ourselves and be the change we want in our country.
Share your knowledge and ideas with others. This road cannot be travelled alone for long. Get other like minded people to accompany you. This way the journey you start alone will eventually become a caravan.

The Leader of leaders…(Election Campaign 2013)

Originally posted on 5 May, 2013

I understand elections are near so people are enthusiastic and all. Unlike many, if I truly assess myself, I can’t lie about how greatly I love my country as I know I haven’t done anything tremendous for it. All I know is that this land is a portion of earth God chose for me and many others. So, I need to be thankful for this asset I was endowed with. I need to know its value. But this value doesn’t has to be triggered only during the election hype does it? Or else it’s not really my country’s value. It’s just the old selfish me who didn’t bother for 5 years until now when a bunch of politicians are compelled to remind me the power of my vote.

Lately, I have been running into a lot of posts portraying predictions, calculations, hope and overwhelming comments by the public. I enjoy strolling through both sarcasm and positivity; however, my concern lies where I see people getting too obsessed for a change that they incline to share pictures of their supported party political leaders and post “do or die” kind of comments over them. I am not against their share; I am just worried about their belief.



I hear and read extreme comments like: “If this XYZ party does not get elected, it is the end for this country”. And who in the world are we to decide that? Then there are songs, useless discussions, a lot of unnecessary noise and other time wasting techniques as well.

Being a Muslim, we must know whom to put our hopes in. I myself might go astray at times as I am not perfect but I try and so it’s a request to everyone out there to also try and evaluate their selves on whether they believe more in the leader or the “Leader of all leaders” Allah Subhana wa taala. And if you find yourself relying a tiny bit more on the human, do your astaghfar and re-establish your faith instantly. Do not put your sole hope and trust in leaders. It is no doubt that great leaders are rare and we as a nation are quite anxious to know what it feels like to have one. But we need to remind ourselves, that in the end, they are just like the rest of us except that Allah chose them as a means through which He let us confront our own identity and teach us both the good and the bad.

Do not forget, “Like Nation Like Leader.”

May Allah bless Pakistan. Ameen.

Be uncorrupted. Be the odd one out. ~Change begins at home


There can be many forms of corruption. It starts small and grows into a big, invincible monster. Even the smallest of corruptions have momentous repercussions.


Examples of corruption that we commit day in and day out;

1) Committing to things that we have no plan of doing.
2) Lying (which by the way is gunah-e-kabeera)
3) Giving bribe to license officer so you pass the test without actually giving it
4) Accepting bribery
5) Sitting idly at work. Doing nothing.
6) Spending more time at work so that you get overtime.
7) Ignoring the red light of traffic signal.



How to be the odd one out?

Promise yourself that you will not stoop as low as to give someone bribe.


Promise yourself that if you have nothing to do in office, you’ll research and read up on something that will be beneficial for yourself, your employers and in turn your country.

Promise yourself that you will not use any of the facilities provided by your employers when you don’t really need it.

If we, ourselves, are not honorable in the small matters of our day to day activities, then we loose any right to label the government as CORRUPTED.


This article is a part of a series of articles by the name of “Change begins at home”. Read other articles in the series:

DADA’s Vote..oops!

Originally posted on: 11 May, 2013


Here’s a little share.

Today is the 11th of May 2013… one of the most awaited days in the history of Pakistan…

Few days back we got to know that for Elections 2013, although we all currently live in Karachi, our polling stations were at Islamabad.

Therefore, I called the Election Commission office to query and they apologized. It was a mistake as our CNICs comprise a permanent address of Islamabad along with “Current Address” of Karachi but somehow they inferred that current addresses are not where we currently live. The call attendant mentioned that this time the procedure was handed over to NADRA, there systems aren’t all ‘computerized’ and blah blah.


He gave me a number to call and complain but the only way I could cast my vote was taking a flight and go to Islamabad for which it was quite late by then. I do admit it was our fault to some extent as well, but it wasn’t like we were expecting this as we’ve been voting previously without any such trouble.

We kept looking into stuff in case by any means we could still do something about it. So, one of our family friends gave a number to my mom. It belonged to a guy who was a member of one of the most popular political party in Karachi. He said he might be able to do something by communicating to our polling station at Islamabad and we might be able to vote via our actual polling station according to our current address.

We waited for his response but then I called him anyway. So here is what the conversation was like:

Me: Assalam-o-Alaikum, is this Mr. XYZ?

XYZ: Yes.

Me: Mr. ABC gave me your number; we have a problem about our polling stations.

XYZ: Yes yes, don’t worry your work will be done (“Apka kaam hojaiga”). You just need to text me your CNICs.

At that particular junction, I knew what was going on, but I decided to keep talking…

Me: Umm, do not I need to go and vote? (My mind depicting a purple thumb)

XYZ: No, it’s not your polling station, they won’t let you.

Me: Ahan… so you mean you aren’t doing this properly. You are doing this with a “Jugaar” (an inappropriate way).

XYZ: That’s my problem how I do it. You send your CNICs and your vote is done.

Me: Oh really, and to what party?

XYZ: Our party off course..It’s DADA’s vote.

Me: (Laughing) Dada…. Nice…Ok…Thanks.

Those were literally his words. What a shame!! It’s not as if I didn’t already expect this… but I just had to try. Hence, though I couldn’t vote for Elections 2013, it reassures me to think I still did a favor to Pakistan, by not texting I mean… ;)

Be the best of the best ~Change begins at Home

Originally posted on: 13 May, 2013

I have been working on a software project in my office for the past two years. The project, like any other of its siblings, started with a bucket load of hopes. Everyone involved committed themselves to work laboriously and bring out the best product ever.

And we did work hard. Really hard. I have been claiming to have given my best to the project. A few months ago I realized that I was so very wrong; that I had failed miserably.

With it also came the realization that it is not a lack of skills that reined us. But a lack of confidence in those skills.

And this is what happens every where with everyone here..

We have lagged behind so much that we are scared to even begin to catch up. We, as a nation, have settled for mediocracy.

We put in only as much efforts as are required to complete a task. Again, that is not because the venoms of lethargy run through our veins. But because we fail to recognize our own talents. The fear of loosing keeps us from dreaming.

A person who has the courage to challenge himself with even greater heights than he has already achieved is the person who will eventually defy all odds and emerge victorious. Unfortunately, we think that we can never be this person.

We have become accustomed of complaining about the government which determinedly keeps on forgetting its responsibilities. We are in the habit of swearing the foreign powers that have nothing better to do than to destroy an already self-destructing nation. And when left with nothing else to blame we turn towards load shedding to carry our burnt of failures.

All of the above may be the reasons. But the biggest reason is we, ourselves.

Being a software engineer, I can look at the many projects initiated by others and try to implement those technologies in Pakistan.

I can think up of innovative ideas.

But no. I limit myself. I don’t try to bring about excellent products. I don’t read up on what others are doing around the world to trigger my brain cells.

I try to be good. But I don’t try to be the best.

I forget that I have a responsibility to be the best for my country. I forget that I too am working for my country. Whatever I do I represent my country. Whatever I do I may be helping my fellow countrymen.

If you are a teacher, think about how you doing your job, good or bad, is affecting the future of your country.

If you work in  a local software house with local clients then you are helping your countrymen with a local product of international standards. Your clients, will then have no need to buy the same kind of product from outside Pakistan.

If you work in a internationally-based organization, your work and your conduct represent your country.

If you work in an organization with international clients; well, not to strike too fine a point but YOUR WORK AND CONDUCT REPRESENT YOUR COUNTRY.

Same goes for people who are living abroad.

If you are a blogger or a writer, be careful of how you represent your country. There is no need to lie. But if you talk about the negative aspects, talk too about the positive aspects. Instill hope in your Pakistani readers.

If we can’t do our jobs honestly, if we can’t be best at what we do, then we have no right to blame our government of being ignorant. And for that matter, we cannot blame the Pakistani sports team for their shortcomings. When it comes to cricket, we expect the team to represent our country by winning every match. Whereas, we ourselves shy away from representing our country.

We ourselves refuse to compete.


The article is in a series of articles by the name of “Change begins at home”. Read other articles in the series:


The Castle of my Sky

Judging others is smooth… Judging ourselves is thorny.

The truth is… we all are others to someone. We formulate some assumptions about each other and treat them as a rule of thumb. The reality is… we see only, what we want to see. Lucky are those who assume the same as the truth but most of us starts by placing a brick on the ground and steadily build up an entire castle in the sky.

Then at some point, our imagination strikes us back.  And one fine day “the others” obliviously display their actual colors. These colors are not really dreadful but nothing like the castle we visualized. As if that was not bad enough, the crazy thing to apprehend is that it was never their fault. People don’t even realize that it wasn’t just me or you falling from the sky but our entire made up sky had fallen.

Now this is the point where most of us go wrong. What happens when we fall? We hit the ground. The higher we went the longer we fell and the harder we smack the ground. But in the agony of that pain we forget something.

We forget the ground. The ground is safe. The pull is consoling, the scent of the sand exhibit life. Yes it hurts. But it never kills; I mean the fall of our imaginations…it never kills us right! It just brings us back on our feet. We forgot the ground earlier when we decided to fly away and intended never to return. But ultimately we are propelled back, we always are… and even if we may not have been that appreciative of the ground, the ground remains sincere.


I read somewhere “Always envisage the worst”.

This is something really tough to implement but it makes you fearless and strong.

Keep your steps stable. Analyze and verify every deed you perform. People are not bad. They are just the same as you in a dissimilar stage or situation of life than you. Build your trust… on YOURSELF. If someone bothers you, or behaves unexpectedly, it’s probably because they are themselves bothered.

Grow to be a little big hearted and offer them your help instead of feeling poor about your self… in fact feel rich. Build your castles in your hearts and heal them. Let people trust you that whatever may be wrong, together all can make them right or at least endeavor with the help of the All Doer off course.


Change begins at Home

Originally posted on: 12th May, 2013.

I know, I know. The actual saying goes like “Charity begins at home” but I don’t think anyone would mind if I modify it a tad.

To understand the reason for this modification, let’s begin at the beginning.
Yesterday, May 11th 2013, marked the historic day of the much awaited and much anticipated elections. The day we get to decide our fate, or so we thought.
Yesterday, for the first time I went out to vote, albeit of being eligible a long time ago. In the past, Election Day was just a day reserved for sleeping. But this time round I was willing to vote. I was willing to exercise my right to vote and choose a leader for my country. In fact, I was thoroughly excited. And so, I am sure, were a lot of other people who were voting for the first time, who “wanted” to vote, not because we suddenly understood that it was an obligation but because this time we had a party which comprised of educated people, of people who’ve been working for the betterment of this country way before they started playing in the field of politics. So this time we went out to vote for a party we had had no experience with, but were willing to give them a chance. This time we decided to vote and we decided to vote in favor of PTI.
Maybe this happens every time and I got to see it for the first time because I myself was voting for the first time. Or maybe I was simply hallucinating. But all around me I saw motivated people, who stood for hours in long queues, who were determined to cast their votes in spite of the mismanagement and rigging that is part of every election.
Polling stations were supposed to start working at 8. Voters reached at 8 AM. But guess who decided not to show up? The presiding officers.
The pretentious election commission claimed a system that was computerized and could not be cheated. And honestly the sms containing important information regarding an individual’s polling station and such was quick enough to give the false impression of an effective system. Pity, the sms and voter’s list were not in sync. Resulting in giving people a tour of all polling stations in their vicinity, ending where they started and casting vote in the same polling station as the sms predicted.
And even with all this going on, the same people who were complaining of the not-asked-for-city-tour were standing in “sakhth dhoop” for long hours just to be given a chance to cast their votes.
In spite of all this exercise, the enthusiasm soared high and by evening you could hear tvs from neighboring houses with volumes turned up to the highest decibel, like increasing the volumes boosted the chances of your favorite party’s victory. 
Twitter was flooded with Pakistan election’s news and views. Such was the ardor that a guy (on twitter), I am assuming he was not a Pakistani, asked whether this was the first election in Pakistan. People flew in from overseas to cast their votes. And I am not just saying this because I heard it on news but because a friend’s relatives actually flew in from Dubai for the elections.
All we were hoping for was a “change”. All we had been promised was a “change” by every party. And like a thirsty person gets fooled by the sand camouflaging as water, we too got our hopes raised.
However, with election results still pouring in, and with no definitive announcement by the authorities, we can see that we may not win this time again. We can see that things will continue to be the same in the future.

That there may not be a change afterall.

We, the people who stay far away from politics are riddled by the same set of questions:
          1)    Are we a minority in our own country?
          2)    Why with so many promises of uncompromised elections, all we got was the most corrupted       elections in the history of the country?
          3)    Knowing the law and order situation of Karachi, why wasn’t army called from the beginning and posted on all polling stations?
          4)    How come the polling stations were without presiding officers?
          5)    How come the polling stations were not open?
And more importantly;
How come with all of this happening in Hyderabad and Karachi, the rest of the country shamelessly celebrated and danced in the glory that often accompanies victory.
All of this goes to show that it was these tattered-to-pieces localities which actually wanted, no.. needed a change.
All of this anger has accumulated within us for a long time, threatening to kill our humanity with each bomb blast, as the only way to survive these days is the stop thinking.. to stop feeling.
I console myself by telling myself that I asked Allah for a leader who would take the country to betterment, even if that person did not belong to the party I supported. I asked Allah to choose the best for us, as only He knows what the best is for us. And so I must accept what He chose for us. 
But what worries me is the disappointment that might ensue because of the rigging incidences so clearly being shown on TV and yet, nobody taking any action to do anything about it.
For the past few days we all gingerly carried a tiny ray of hope within us, protecting it from the scorching negative thoughts attacking it from all sides; not from outside but from within ourselves. The negativity that should most probably be called analytical thinking.
And today I worry that the hope might break. Or we may settle back and prepare ourselves for another 5 years of the same corruption ruling the city.
But wait….. 
I accept that the degree of development brought on by people in government is magnanimous.
But do we really need the government to do everything for us?
We may not be able to bring a whole lot of change but I believe that Change begins at home. That revolution begins at the bottom, ripples up and eventually brings about a tsunami.
Whatever we were promised, Naya Pakistan could not have been made in a day.
Change comes about slowly. And in this case only slow and steady wins the race.
All quick fixes are just that; quick and fixes aka JUGAARS.
And how, you ask, to bring about a change.
Let’s start with listing down things that are wrong; 

      1) The utter lack of security

     2) Corruption in and out
     3) Education or rather it’s absence
And the list goes on…
Now, think about what you can do about each of these problems. How can YOU contribute? What can YOU do to fix these problems, any problem?
Think about what bothers YOU the most. Most of the others are victims of the same. And then try to solve that problem.
I know it’s not easy. But nothing good comes easy.
It’s the difficulty of a task that makes achieving it worthwhile.
I have compiled a list of changes we can bring about as individuals. Some of these have been hitting themselves against my thick skull for a long time. Some of these I try to implement every day. Sometimes I succeed. Sometimes I fail. Yet I trudge forward.
When I started writing this piece I knew it would be lengthy but now it has gotten way too lengthy to be digested in a single sitting and any small effect that it may carry would be waived off by its length. And it’s not even complete yet. And it can never be complete. Because there is always a scope for improvement. As we go forward we’ll think of more “changes” which need to be brought about. And this is what I want. I want everyone to participate. Each of us first needs to bring about a change within ourselves and then help each other to achieve. The journey that we plan to venture on can be started alone but cannot be continued alone for a long time.
In the weeks to come I will post a few articles comprising of the changes which we should work to bring about. Read them. Ponder over them. Correct me where I am wrong. Try to implement them with me. Bring in your ideas to the table. Let’s work together for a change. Let’s work individually and let’s help each other because
Change begins at home
Please pray to Allah for Pakistan. This country was made on the name of Islam, yet we strayed far away from Islam. As for Allah’s forgiveness. Pray for the betterment of this country.